As the day of my sons departure to Bolivia approaches, I’ve been submerged in nostalgia these past few weeks, remembering my “hands on ” days of parenting and in that state of mind I agreed to a full time week with my little grandsons. Hijole! while my hijo went to our fellowship bible conference in Prescott Az. with his wife and his other 3 older kids, mis nietas. The lil Greene brothers; Jeremiah Joseph 4 ½ y Uriah Benjamin 2 years old, stayed with Ama and Apa. In a rare moment of insanity, as I considered que estan bien chulos! I quickly agreed Por supuesto they could spend a week with us. Then reality started spotting my nostalgia. It should be a quick 5 days…and 5 nights. We would rest after they were in bed each night…or quizas we could take turns and rest? Worst case scenario, was that we would repose at the end of the week… If we survived, que exagerada verdad? I admonished myself. How could I not wipe my slate clean for those two cuties? So I did, and before the nostalgia could completely wear off, Daniella and I had a plan all set. We enlisted her three “older” sons (9, 8 and 6 years old) to help in the work of “playing with the little cousins’ ‘ which they were very excited about since they enjoy their cousins. It was a very practical plan that might help us keep peace and sanity. It shouldn’t be too exhausting, my empty nest mind hoped and prayed.
The Schedule was as follows: Breakfast, playtime, snack, outing, naptime/quiet, watch time, another snack, more playtime, dinner time, dessert, we cleaned/they played, winding down and bedtime by 9pm. Hijole! Now that I’m describing it, it sounds like boot camp. No se preocupen, althouth it was all accomplished in “Fast mode,” Ya se imaginan verdad? Five excited, overflowing with energy little boys, my head is still spinning but we survived. Glitches, like an emergency run to the dentist for Daniella or “Tia Yaya” as the Greene little brothers call her, didn’t ruin the day, it just quickly took me off the empty nester speed. Y ahora si, after her dental issue was resolved she showed up for duty, ready to take on those little boys!
In typical boy fashion all my nietos needed to be the winners. They all were right about anything and everything and they all fought to be number one. All were the strongest and fastest of all. Even 2 year old Uriah argued his case, he just couldn’t take a loss at any game or “discussion.” If he was sinking to a loss, he would throw out his Ace and come quickly running to Ama or tia Yaya and say “Ma, Ma…Braye mean” (Braye is the one syllable name he can say with clarity and so it is first on his lips) and that would either give him a winning chance, because now Ama would investigate to see if Braye was actually being mean. If he didn’t get his way he’d lose interest in the thing he was trying to win, but at least he didn’t lose, it was a win-win strategy. Ahora si, now that I don’t have a house full of hombrecitos and it’s quiet, no arguments needed to be won, I can appreciate their zeal.
It was a good week, tiring for sure, but I’m so glad we filled up our empty nest this past week with Lil boys, mis nietecitos. All through the week I was reminded of the days when my own boys were little and as Daniella helped me then with her little brothers she helped me this past week also with her nephews.
We had a week doused with sweet moments (although I wouldn’t tell those tough lil guys) and plenty of funny times.
Judah and Uriah the “babies” in their family bonded nicely. Judah did experience the role of “big brother.” I’m not sure he appreciated it too much when he was having to give up his right to the attention and special priviledges. Being the baby definitely has it’s benefits.
Jeremiah chose his cousin Braye as his favorite and Braye puffed up for a while as he was being followed around, then it got tiresome to always be the chosen favorite.
Jeremiah challenged Apa with a War card game and set the rules to win. Apa, wasn’t prepared to lose though and challenged Jeremiah’s questionable tactics.
Jeremiah explained carefully to me that his “True Love” was his mommy, even though his daddy was also claiming her as his true love. Oh my goodness! I remembered those days sweet cuddling days. I think it was his way of “patting me on the shoulder” so I wouldn’t be disappointed.
Uriah was experiencing a different kind of attention from his “older” cousins, testosterone galore! They were not catering to his every whim, like his big sisters do. y mas importante, the whining wasn’t working very well.
4 year-old Jeremiah was loving hanging out with the big boys! He loved their rough ways because he himself is a tough guy.
Darius the dog loved, then hated the excess and sometimes brutish attention he was getting. He didn’t know where to hide from all the commotion at times.
What heart throbs ama and tia experienced when lil Uriah gallantly doled out kisses just because!
Stolen hugs from Jeremiah were fun because it reminded me of his dad at his age, who also didn’t appreciate the ladies hugging him or pinching his cheeks at will just because he was so adorable.
Pee on the toilet seat, toys everywhere provoked Daniella to sing the Annie song “Little Girls” with a twist in lyrics “Little boys, little boys everywhere I turn I see them”
The straight honesty of children will either make you laugh or cry, but the brutish honesty of boys will have you dishing it right back! Jeremiah: “Ama this is ditcutting” Ama: (hiding my offense because I served a delicious dinner) Don’t eat it, you can watch everyone eat their ice cream later.” You’ll never know who won that battle.
We listened to the boys talk, they were zealous about monster trucks. Their arguments and their passion for things amazed me, they debated endlessly. Michael Jackson was a big topic. Jeremiah had a different opinion than that from the cousins and both sides were passionate in their conviction and their sighted sources: their parents’ views! Hijole!
Grandparenting is on a different level. I used to be a very strict mom, but this past week, despite the schedule, Daniella was so amazed at my “blind eye” that she teased “Who are you? And what have you done with my mother? Its liberating to be able to be an “abuela culeca”
On our last day
The keys to a successful week was sticking to the schedule and cousins enjoying one another. I mean, these two empty nesters forgot all the details involved in child rearing, we needed all hands on deck to help us, special thanks to Daniella and her big boys for saving the week. Luego, just as soon as Jeremiah and Uriah were safely back in their parents’ care, Ben and I ran to take a long nap.
En Conclusíon
Jeremiah in his usual MO didn’t give me the time of day when I saw him on Sunday at church, he was still trying to hang with the big boys, I’m not gonna lie, this strong latina woman still gets her feelings hurt, bien ofendida! Shake it off, let it go, he’s a busy little boy! Pero, when he was at my house on Monday, I cried out in dramatic dismay “Oh no! You’re back! I must run and hide.” He smiled and liked that dramatic greeting. Inside I cringed at the fact that soon he wasn’t just going to show up at my house with his family. Facetime and virtual visits will be the closest visits we get, other than our visit to them. With that in mind, I had better stay off empty nester mode and relish all the noise and chaos, because too soon my nest will be much quieter.